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Yesterday afternoon I had three good ideas. One was to call my mother and tell her about the Daniel situation (I apologise for the reference to a locked post in a public one), because she seemed like a safe person to talk to about it. I mean, he's probably never going to find out that I told her unless I admit it myself, so ... no harm done, right? I just needed to tell someone. We didn't continue our discussion from the last time we talked, but that was alright, too. It's still in the back of my head and I'm going to bring it up again sooner or later.
Incidentally, another of the ideas was related to that. I'd been unsure of what exactly to say to her and then it suddenly came to me. (This was before I called her, I think - or was it? I don't remember, but it wouldn't have made a difference. There wasn't enough time for both topics because she had stuff to do.) It's very simple: I am going to use the example that if you take two equally ambitious people and give them the exact same goal (which they are equally enthusiastic about) as well as the exact same obstacle to overcome in order to reach it, there is still a chance that one will succeed and one won't. Now, exchange the obstacle for a different one and maybe this time their roles will be reversed. Because it's not about motivation! People have unique strengths and weaknesses and if your problem happens to be something that you're bad at dealing with, it doesn't matter how much you want to overcome it. You will need time or help at the very least, if not both, and perhaps you'll have to change goals entirely. There. Try to argue with that. :P
(I get ridiculously excited when I discover a new way to explain something. I like to think of people who don't understand things as puzzles to solve. Getting closer to solving them is even more fun than finding the solution to an actual problem! Oh gods I just used my brain and it worked oh gods I can still be smart sometimes alert the fucking media I feel amazing oh gods.)
((This is exactly why my mother once suggested I become a lawyer.))
(((I do not wish to become a lawyer. I'd rather solve puzzles that don't involve arbitrary human-made laws, thanks.)))
The third idea was of the kind that made me want to smack myself for not having thought of it sooner. It doesn't even deserve to be called an idea, really. I have a tendency to aim for perfect when I shouldn't, to prepare for as many eventualities at once when it would be way more advisable to focus on getting one thing right at first.
By which I mean. Why the fuck should I get up at 6 or 7 every morning just because there might be a tiny chance that one day I will have to?!
I missed my designated bedtime by accident and felt bad about it for a while until I realised that if keeping an eye on Daniel was going to be a priority from now on, I should probably stop going to bed so early. Sure, yesterday I still had to because I'd been awake for almost three days (not counting chair naps), but suddenly 8 seemed like a much better time to set my alarm to. I don't want to tell him that we can only ever hang out until 10 pm, you know? "I'd like to be home by midnight" already sounds way more reasonable. Nobody's going to need me between 6 and 8 in the morning.
"But what if I get another doctor's appointment at 7:15?" Yeah, you know what, brain? IT'S UNLIKELY TO HAPPEN THIS MONTH. SHUT UP. The goal was to BE AWAKE MOST DAYS, which would already improve our quality of life tremendously if those days started at TEN. So STFU and let me live in the present goddammit.
So I set my alarm to 8, went to bed at 6, needed to hit the "snooze" button three times despite having slept for 14 hours, and finally crawled out of bed feeling terrible physically but extremely pleased with myself. :D
Incidentally, another of the ideas was related to that. I'd been unsure of what exactly to say to her and then it suddenly came to me. (This was before I called her, I think - or was it? I don't remember, but it wouldn't have made a difference. There wasn't enough time for both topics because she had stuff to do.) It's very simple: I am going to use the example that if you take two equally ambitious people and give them the exact same goal (which they are equally enthusiastic about) as well as the exact same obstacle to overcome in order to reach it, there is still a chance that one will succeed and one won't. Now, exchange the obstacle for a different one and maybe this time their roles will be reversed. Because it's not about motivation! People have unique strengths and weaknesses and if your problem happens to be something that you're bad at dealing with, it doesn't matter how much you want to overcome it. You will need time or help at the very least, if not both, and perhaps you'll have to change goals entirely. There. Try to argue with that. :P
(I get ridiculously excited when I discover a new way to explain something. I like to think of people who don't understand things as puzzles to solve. Getting closer to solving them is even more fun than finding the solution to an actual problem! Oh gods I just used my brain and it worked oh gods I can still be smart sometimes alert the fucking media I feel amazing oh gods.)
((This is exactly why my mother once suggested I become a lawyer.))
(((I do not wish to become a lawyer. I'd rather solve puzzles that don't involve arbitrary human-made laws, thanks.)))
The third idea was of the kind that made me want to smack myself for not having thought of it sooner. It doesn't even deserve to be called an idea, really. I have a tendency to aim for perfect when I shouldn't, to prepare for as many eventualities at once when it would be way more advisable to focus on getting one thing right at first.
By which I mean. Why the fuck should I get up at 6 or 7 every morning just because there might be a tiny chance that one day I will have to?!
I missed my designated bedtime by accident and felt bad about it for a while until I realised that if keeping an eye on Daniel was going to be a priority from now on, I should probably stop going to bed so early. Sure, yesterday I still had to because I'd been awake for almost three days (not counting chair naps), but suddenly 8 seemed like a much better time to set my alarm to. I don't want to tell him that we can only ever hang out until 10 pm, you know? "I'd like to be home by midnight" already sounds way more reasonable. Nobody's going to need me between 6 and 8 in the morning.
"But what if I get another doctor's appointment at 7:15?" Yeah, you know what, brain? IT'S UNLIKELY TO HAPPEN THIS MONTH. SHUT UP. The goal was to BE AWAKE MOST DAYS, which would already improve our quality of life tremendously if those days started at TEN. So STFU and let me live in the present goddammit.
So I set my alarm to 8, went to bed at 6, needed to hit the "snooze" button three times despite having slept for 14 hours, and finally crawled out of bed feeling terrible physically but extremely pleased with myself. :D
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Haha, I think the same way! I'm always like, "They can't possibly just be dumb, I must not be explaining it right..." Although recently I've run into a few people who are really challenging this view with their stupidity... And I think of my family as a rubik's cube-- you know in theory there must be a solution, but damned if I can figure it out.
I don't want to be a lawyer either. Sounds dead boring.
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Uh...
Did that make sense?
Maybe my brain is the puzzle... XD
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I've also been known to accidentally oversimplify things while attempting to do this. Which may result in sounding like I think the person is stupid or like I have an overly simple way of looking at things. Oops.